How to Cut Energy Cords
Knowing how to cut energy cords is an essential skill, especially if you have a person in your life that constantly drains you of energy.
Maybe in your work you have to deal with lots of people who constantly want something from you and at the end of the day you just want to go home to bed and be alone?
I totally get it as I used to be like this!
People who I had never met before would come up to me and tell me their (mostly dramatic) life story. They would go on and on with no end to the drama and basically dump their unresolved energetic stuff onto me.
These people were actually not interested in practical advice or solutions let alone changing something. All they wanted was to purge their emotions and energies onto someone (like me) who would just take it all in.
At that point in my life, I had no idea what was energetically happening to me and I would just sit and listen compassionately. At the end of the conversation I usually would end up feeling completely exhausted. I remember often feeling like a dark cloud had suddenly come over me that left me with an indescribable awful feeling. Quiet to the contrary of my “conversation” partner. He usually would leave energized and with a smile on his face. But I was completely exhausted and tired.
I know that a lot of my clients are facing the same issue. Especially sensitive women like you and me. Now while I am not saying you should not listen to a friend in need, I am suggesting you learn to become aware of your own energetic boundaries and know what to do in such cases.
Energetic exchange between two people
We human beings not only interact energetically through our auric field, which is the energy around our bodies, but we also exchange energies through invisible energetic cords.
You might already know that I am a medical intuitive who can intuitively see these cords and let me tell you, it is really interesting to observe them in action.
The ideal case is if you love someone and that person mutually loves you back. This does not need to be a romantic partnership as it also happens between friends. In such a case, you exchange energy that runs from your heart chakra into the heart chakra of your friend, and vice versa.
When this happens, both of you feel good, energized and you have exchanged meaningful energies on the heart level.
But in the case where you feel exhausted and drained the picture is entirely different.
In such a case, the person robbing you of energy unconsciously plugs his energetic cord from his Solar Plexus Chakra (which is right over the stomach) into yours and literally drains the life force out of you.
That’s the reason why you will end up feeling awful and tired and the other person energized and happy.
Sometimes it even goes further: When the person you speak to carries a lot of unresolved issues, he can also energetically transfer them right into your Solar Plexus Chakra if you are not careful. Then you can end up feeling angry or upset for no reason other than it was not your energy to begin with!
The result is often intense fatigue and confusion.
To prevent this from happening, the following is what I suggest you do.
How to Cut Energy Cords with these Simple Techniques
First, it’s crucial you train yourself to become aware what happens energetically when you interact with another person. Start by simply noticing how you feel before, during and after the conversation. Do you feel energized, or are you drained, fatigued and confused?
Next time you interact with someone and you notice that something is not right, you need to take immediate energetic measures to not leak energy to the other person, or take on unresolved issues that are not yours.
Protect Your Solar Plexus Chakra
• To energetically protect your Solar Plexus Chakra simply put one hand over your stomach area, where this chakra is located.
• Set the firm intention (you can do so silently in your head) to not allow any more energetic exchange on this level with the other person.
Cut the Energy Cord
• Next, move one of your hands with an up and downward motion over your Solar Plexus. Visualize “chopping” the cord and by doing so, you are breaking the flow of energy to the other person. Again, set the firm intention to break this cord now for good.
When you learn to take control of your own energy, life becomes more fun. Unnecessary drama will go away. People who have previously drained your energy will not be attracted to you anymore. It’s that simple.
Cleanse Yourself Energetically
In the case you that you took on unwanted energies from the other person, visualize yourself standing under a waterfall that cleanses you from everything that is not yours.
This has worked wonders for me and for many of my clients. It has been years since I have left a conversation like this feeling drained. If you need help, I suggest you book a Rapid Emotional Clearing session!
So try out these simple but powerful techniques and let me know in the comments below how you liked them.
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Thank you Dr Katharina for the tip about energetic cords. The timing was perfect. I cut 6 cords to 4 different people and I immediately felt better. Thank you so much. I want to now be more aware of what is happening to me when I interact with others. Usually I am paying attention to them and what they are saying. Now I want to pay attention to my sense of me as well; I do not want to leave me out of the equation. I am grateful for this heightened awareness. Thank you again!
Thank you for your comment.
Yes, it’s important to not “lose yourself” energetically in another person. This happens easily, especially to sensitive women like you.
So here is my suggestion: when you interact with someone, pay attention to your body. Put your awareness on your feet so that you can stay grounded. When you notice you energetically “lean” into the other person, shift your position. You might even want to move your legs away from the person. Play with it to see what works best for you. It’s really a practice and over time it will be easier for you to stay in your own energy field.
Hope this helps and let me know if you have further questions!
Thank for this very informative and useful article. I have put the information into practice but continue to experience attachments. I feel (Clair senses) attachments happening more frequently now before falling asleep in both my solar plex and 3rd eye. It has become so bothersome it affecting both my health and employment. Any suggestions? My Clair sense abilities are new to me and not developed.
Thank you very much.
You might want to “ask” your body what the sensations mean when you you are about to fall asleep. Are you sure they are attachment cords? What’s the sensation like? If you are sure they are unwanted energies or cords, I suggest you do the healing meditation from this page right before going to bed: http://drkatharina.com/5-tipps-to-cleanse-your-aura-and-chakras-to-increase-your-energy-and-stop-overwhelm/
If you feel energized after the meditation and it’s hard for you to fall asleep right away, I suggest you listen to the recording an hour before going to bed.
Please let me know if this makes a difference for you.
Excellent post Katharina – and the comments are just as good as the post! Thanks so much for being you <3
I really appreciate this info.re: Protecting myself from the energies that drain us and look forward to using these techniques and especially cutting cords which I have had several times for probably several years.
Great to hear Nancy and wishing you the very best!
So it’s just by intention that we don’t allow the negative exchange? Is there anything we can do to make this the default way of being without having to be so cognizant of it?
Asking because I have social anxiety due to this knowledge.. which obviously effects my quality of life.
I want to just be “normal”- I know there isn’t a normal but id like to just have healthy interactions effortlessly.
(Thank you for this information!)
It is not just by intention only. It is also a matter of energetic resonance. When your boundaries are very thin, you usually tend to go into resonance with the feelings and emotions of other people, which can feel overwhelming. In order to strengthen your boundaries, please try the technique I am sharing in the below comment.
Wishing you the very best!
Hi, I feel drained and exhausted by my family members and their energies, unfortunately I cannot move out and when I tried this technique I began to feel anxious am I doing something wrong?
Could it be that you got anxious because you are now more aware of the situation? In order to change and heal something, awareness is always the first step.
However, if this new knowledge makes you anxious, I suggest you do the following: Continue the cord cutting but also work on increasing the energy field of the heart. The heart has a very large field and when this chakra is completely open, it is like a protective field around the entire body. To increase the strength of the heart chakra, focus on it, and pretend you are “breathing” in and out through it. Then think about a memory that invokes feeling of love and care within you. Keep focusing on your heart while trying to expand the feeling of love. Doing so will help you greatly stay within your own energy field, also around your family members.
Please give it a try and let me know how it went.
How come I don’t feel good around some people.
You might be very sensitive to other people`s energy and not only pick up their emotions, but also go into energetic resonance with them. When you do, it can feel very draining and confusing as you are literally processing other people`s unresolved issues. In order to stop doing so, please look at the previous comment and also practice increasing your heart`s energy. When you do so, you will be able to stay within your own energy field when you are around other people and it will not affect you as much anymore.
How do I break an energetic cord with someone living hours away from myself?
You can use all the techniques I have described in the article even if the person you lives far away from you.
Distance does not play a role in this process to work.
Please try it out and let me know how it worked.
Thank you.I am going to make sure I really focus and practice these tips of yours. I’m sure they will help me big time, but also wanted to know what to do if the other person is also aware of their energy and is actually trying to take mine?
It is very uncommon for people to actively trying to “take” your energy. Theses things usually happens through subconscious processes so I wouldn`t be worried about it. The exception of this rule is if someone is actively engaging in “black magic”. A term used to manipulate energy and use it to actually harm people. This is very very uncommon, so I would not be concerned about it. The important thing is for you to keep your energetic boundaries strong and to work on the fear that someone is trying to take your energy. If there is no fear in you, then there is no more energetic resonance.
Hope this helps and wishing you the very best.
Thank you so much Dr …your audios and emails are changing my life.
Thank you so much for your kind words! I am so glad you are finding them helpful.
I ended a friendship with a clingy man who had romantic feelings for me. We were friends for a while. I am pretty sensitive and I started to feel his energy was really heavy. I started to become irritated and agitated anytime I was around him, it was bizarre. He helped me move earlier this year. During the trip I could feel entities around him. I started to feel this strange sucking sensation over my solar plexus and crown chakra. Something inside me told me to get away from him so I ended the friendship. It’s been 3 months now and I still feel the anger and irritability whenever he crosses my mind. I don’t even want to think of him but he enters my mind quite often. Can this be due to the cords? Is it possible he’s feeding off of me?
There are multiple reasons why you keep thinking of him. Maybe you have cords with him, in this case I suggest you use the cord cutting techniques described in the article. It also could be that he triggers something inside of you that you are not aware of and that you are projecting onto him. The question is, what exactly bothers you so much about him? Any personality traits, attitudes or ways of being? you could examine this in a meditation and then ask yourself if there is the same trait within yourself that you actually don`t approve of? If you find something, lovingly allow it to be there, just hold it in your conscious awareness without judging it, and without wanting to push it away. When you do so, over time it will just naturally leave you as you are now aware of it.
I am trying to find details of cord cutting I do not feel I can do it myself.
Did you try the suggestions mentioned in the article?
If you need help, I suggest doing a Rapid Emotional Clearing Session.
Thank you for this article. I have been cutting cords for a while now on a regular basis and feel a big difference. It‘s a very helpful tool. What I‘ve learned though is whenever something is removed it should always be replaced. So after every cord cutting I fill myself up with light and love from higher source.
I sometimes find myself so exhausted and ready for a nap after my daughter has been talking to me about her life and issues she’s dealing with. Fifteen minutes after ending the conversation I’m feeling back to normal again. I dearly love her and want her to be able to share but it’s one sided and too much at times. Is it possible to cut the chord of negativity and the draining feeling but still maintain an emotional bond and connection with someone? It’s a push-pull but I don’t want her to ever feel I’m not there for her but I also can’t sacrifice my own energy either.
In order to not feel drained when you talk to your daughter, you need to first find out why you feel the way you feel. Maybe you feel too responsible for her and that is the reason you feel drained. Once you realize why you have the cord of negativity and the resonance to her issues, it is easy to cut the cord. I suggest you try to go inside and ask yourself which feeling the conversation triggers within you. Then do use tapping or EFT to cleanse yourself from the feeling. Once you have done so effectively, you can cut the cord of negativity.
Hope this helps and sending blessings,